I like Stroman and believe that he wants to play for the Mets. His opting out last year had multiple aspects to it, and I don't blame him for any of it. 2020 was ****ed up.
First: it was his walk year. He worked extremely hard to prep for the season, because he's a competitor and because he knew that tens of millions were at stake depending upon how he performed and because he knew that a great 2020 with a playoff run in his home (major market) town would be the best of all scenarios. I watched his workouts, read his tweets and bought in to his genuine enthusiasm for the team and what it was capable of.
Second: then Covid hit. Despite this, he continued to safely workout (remember the Dom videos?) but like the rest of us, he was likely watching how things developed, and the borough in which his team played (and close to where his parents lived) was among the hardest hit in the world. He obviously, like many of us with older or compromised family (I'm especially sympathetic here, as my mom passed from the virus in April), saw Covid as a risk to his family's health, but we'd be naive to think he didn't also recognize that if the season got shortened, or he got contact-traced out of a week or so, or if he missed a month or more (like Nido) his numbers, and his FA prospects would be negatively impacted. Also, I don't take his concerns for his family (who live on Long Island) lightly. He's close to his parents and is far from a slacker. His dad is a Suffolk County Police Detective and he's got several tats dedicated to his mom. Still, even with the season opening delayed, he seemed determined to play. Then...
Third: he tore his calf muscle. This is a devastating injury for a pitcher. More so for a 5-7 pitcher who needs every bit of power and speed to pitch well and field at a gold glove level. Anyone who has had a calf strain or tear knows how long they take to heal and how easy it is to re-injure it. I'm guessing he wanted to feel 100% before coming back, because that handful of starts he'd have upon returning would have a major influence on his value as free agent. He could parlay them into a Bauer-like 2020 and prosper or, if he wasn't completely healed, pitched poorly or, worse, re-injured the calf, his 2020 could have been the anti-Bauer.
Fourth: which is why I don't blame him for opting out, for any or all of the above reasons. However...
Fifth: I truly believe the guy wants to play and excel in New York. I'm not sure he would have taken the QO if Cohen hadn't taken over the team. He likely would have been able to sign a comparable 1-year deal somewhere. I think he wants to have an amazing season and hopes to re-sign with the Mets before testing FA. I hope this is the case.