It's not the exact same but the point remains about what you are laughably focused on. You are outraged a woman has fear in an extreme situation. You aren't mad at all and try to justify a black man being confronted by cops then killed by them due to their own fear (so not just a fear but actually killing someone off it instead of keeping it to yourself until asked).
The cops often create confrontation, that isn't an excuse to kill others. There is a person there letting them know he has a gun and trying to get his ID as was asked for. The cop wasn't in danger in that moment being confronted by a man aiming a gun to shoot and kill him. Just like AOC wasn't confronted by someone trying to rape her. You still have more outrage about her simple fear as opposed to killing a black man. It's amazing how little you think of certain people.