DO NOT have a "friendship" with her from here on in. I can tell you that you'll be kicking yourself in the *** and WILL become 100% depressed. Cut all ties (I know it's gonna be hard but it's for the best) and try and move on (easier said than done).
Who has she been hanging out with in the last couple of months? More than likey she cheated on you and this is her way out. Women are evil like that sometimes. Keep your head up, son. Find someone who makes you happy and appreciates you for you.
First of all, sorry to hear that man, it sucks. If you really care about her and hope to salvage the relationship, i wouldnt do anything crazy right now like **** the first girl you see. I would take my few weeks to try and make sense of things, reflect on the relationship. I would try to do productive outlets like exercise and new hobbies (avoid potential bad habits). Once you feel comfortable try and get back out into the dating game. During your few weeks of doing something good for yourself you should have regained confidence and feel good about yourself.
Worst-case scenario: You eventually get over her and then meet some other girls
Best-Case scenario (if you want to get back with her): You make improvements in your life, go out with some other girls, she witnesses this and wants to get back with you. (then you have all the power and can choose if YOU WANT HER BACK!)
Best of luck bro
This is the advice to take. When she broke up with you I really hope you didn't beg to her to not go thru with it and that you will do anything to keep her and all that good stuff... Best thing to do is go 30-40 days with complete no contact from her! Don't text, call her, email.. NOTHING. Completely disappear from her life and she will begin to realize wtf you're up to and most likely contact you. You pretty much have to give her the gift of missing you, in fact the reason she "Fell out of love" with you aka lost attraction for you was because you changed and probably became her dog (stopped acting like a man towards her).
In the meantime do what everyone here has told you already and find other activities with friends, meet new chicks and just leave her alone completely for a month. Guaranteed to work. **** at the end of those 30 days you will realize you are probably better off without her. Especially since your only 20.
Last edited by bluefire7002; 02-04-2013 at 04:59 PM.
We don't quit, we don't cower, we don't run. We endure and conquer." -Kobe Bryant
1. You should probably ignore some of the advice in this thread
2. Everyone has been rejected at some point. Even the hottest girls in the world have been dumped.
3. There is a pretty well known person that wanted to end his life in part because he thought he would never find a girl as beautiful as his ex girlfriend who dumped him. He was homeless and broke. That person went on to marry one of the worlds top supermodels down the road.
If it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be. You're 20, you're young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Hang out with your friends, go on vacation. I'm sorry, I don't know how to deal with a break-up.
Girlfriend of a year and half broke up with me yesterday. 20 years old and were about to move in together. Then she comes out of nowhere to claim she has fallen out of love with me. I know I have to accept it. But How to deal with it I have no idea. Just want to pick everything up and leave. What do you guys suggest?
Heart broken individual!
Don't worry, you were bound to break up in a month or two if you were gonna move in together. Now you don't have to deal with the $$$ bull.
Keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends, pick up your old hobbies, and most importantly, rediscover yourself. Then in due time, you'll feel alright. I got out of a 4 year relationship 2 years ago and we were living together. Best decision I ever made.