Depression

[rwynyc]

My brother started his drama when he was 15... To make a long story short, it started with depression; that led into soft drugs; then hard drugs, then he got violent; then he set himself on fire... He was in custody of a mental hospitol from the time he was 19 til he turned 30.. He is 36 now,,,, and worthless.

When he was 18 he tried to kill my daughter and I.... The hardest thing I have ever had to do is to buy a 9mm and teach my wife how to kill my brother.

I have not spoken to my brother in 18 years.

I am sorry that you had to go through that man. I have had my issues with alcohol and drugs when I was younger. I was never an addict but I used to let the party go for too long. So I can confidently say its not drugs. I know every thing to look for. I hope it does not get this far but I only see it getting worse.

[rwynyc]

holy ****. I dont even want to imagine how hard that is man.
I remember watching a documentary, it showed a study of a severely depressed patient. Didnt talk to anyone in their family, just moped in self-hatred. They jacked up her with Vitamin Bs, like 2000% the daily value. After a couple of days, she was chatty, enjoying company, smiling... she was like a whole different person. Sure, this is one of those quick fix solutions, but if used along with therapy I believe it could do good.

I take vitamin b12 injections. It def gives you a sense of well being and a calmness. Anyone can buy them on the internet its legit.

[rwynyc]

It's often hard for parents to admit that a child of theirs needs help, because they often view it as a failure on their part. Try and explain to your dad that he didn't do anything wrong, and it's not his fault that your brother needs help. Also that he has to understand anything that happens to your brother from this point on could be his fault for being an enabler.

Have a look at this page my man
Beyond Blue

Thanks I checked this site out today. I am actually going to call a hotline and get some feed back on how to handle.

[Iansnightout]

I did for a short stint when I was 12. Try and be there for the person because the last thing you want is for them to go to the doctor. Do stuff with them, even have heart to hearts. The doctor is just going to prescribe some drug that will totally alter and change their personality. The drug they gave me put me to sleep with in 5 minutes of taking it, made me constantly sad and pissed off at others and not my self amongst other things. It was weird, make sure they do not go to a doctor.

This is a terrible way to look at it. The doctor should be prescribing drugs because the person's brain chemistry needs to be corrected. You just had a bad reaction to a drug and should have been given alternatives.

I don't think drugging people up is the way to go at all. Therapy and anti-depressants combined can work wonders and its this type of misconception that keeps people from seeking the help they need.

My suggestion first and foremost for anyone with severe depression is to see a medical professional. Whether that be a psychologist or a psychiatrist or your family practitioner. They can all get you on the right track and refer you to the necessary people.

[Sretep75]

This sounds like the same problem my uncle is going through.

[Ktulu]

Honestly, I don't think PsD is the best place to be posting this stuff. These things are personal info and problems about your brother's life. If I was him I wouldn't want my brother posting things about me on an online forum. Especially a topic about him being depressed. I mean I'm not trying to be a dick here, but you should try to respect your brother's privacy.
Again, not trying to be a dick here. Just putting myself in your brother's shoes

[Iansnightout]

Honestly, I don't think PsD is the best place to be posting this stuff. These things are personal info and problems about your brother's life. If I was him I wouldn't want my brother posting things about me on an online forum. Especially a topic about him being depressed. I mean I'm not trying to be a dick here, but you should try to respect your brother's privacy.
Again, not trying to be a dick here. Just putting myself in your brother's shoes

Well, nobody actually knows his brother. Hell, his brother probably doesn't even know he asked.

[Labgrownmangoat]

Has anyone ever dealt with someone close to them that might suffer from depression and refuses to get help? Or anyone that struggles with depression themselves.

I am dealing with an unfortunate issue (not me someone else) and I know this probably might not be the best place to ask but I figured with a lot of younger people on this board they could possibly shed some light on this disease.

If I get any serious responses I will get into more details.

I had a close friend that deteriorated badly due to severe depression and eventually asked me to call to get him some help. I was happy to do it, and after it was over he was extremely greatful. He is well today, and he never would have been without getting help.

If you truly believe the person you have in mind may harm himself or others, consider the option of having them involuntarily institutionalized. It seems extreme, but if he kills himself or someone else, that is a whole lot more awful. Though it would suck, I would much, much rather be wrong about trying to get someone help than wrong about them being homicidal or suicidal.

[rwynyc]

Honestly, I don't think PsD is the best place to be posting this stuff. These things are personal info and problems about your brother's life. If I was him I wouldn't want my brother posting things about me on an online forum. Especially a topic about him being depressed. I mean I'm not trying to be a dick here, but you should try to respect your brother's privacy.
Again, not trying to be a dick here. Just putting myself in your brother's shoes

I hear ya but I dont know anyone here and never will which a great thing about a message board bc you can say what you want without having to worry. I actually went to a depression message board but got more repsonses here if you can believe it. Other boards I am on people know my personally so cnat put it there

[rwynyc]

I had a close friend that deteriorated badly due to severe depression and eventually asked me to call to get him some help. I was happy to do it, and after it was over he was extremely greatful. He is well today, and he never would have been without getting help.

If you truly believe the person you have in mind may harm himself or others, consider the option of having them involuntarily institutionalized. It seems extreme, but if he kills himself or someone else, that is a whole lot more awful. Though it would suck, I would much, much rather be wrong about trying to get someone help than wrong about them being homicidal or suicidal.

The problem is my father who is stading in the way bc he is too proud to think one of his kids has a problem like this. He is waiting for my brother to come out and say hey I need help but my brother never will. I spoke to a couple of dr's todya and gave them a lot of situations and they told me drugs wont be they way to go. He has deep rooted emotional issues along with depression and he is angry.

[Iansnightout]

The problem is my father who is stading in the way bc he is too proud to think one of his kids has a problem like this. He is waiting for my brother to come out and say hey I need help but my brother never will. I spoke to a couple of dr's todya and gave them a lot of situations and they told me drugs wont be they way to go. He has deep rooted emotional issues along with depression and he is angry.

Sounds like those doctors aren't very smart.

He probably need medication and therapy.

It's odd that a doctor wouldn't prescribe something.

[CHRISDODGERS]

nevermind

[SACNYY]

I figured I'd post here instead of making my own thread. But recently I've dealt with depression. At night I start to feel sad, lonely, and sometimes I'll cry. This started when I lost my apartment, my girlfriend, and my job. I had to move back in with my parents and they just fight everyday, so that's not helping me. Almost every night I walk down to the beach alone and just sit there and feel so horrible. I feel so lost. I have no social life now.

My best friend came and visited from Seattle, that was the best night I've had in a long time. That was 2 days ago, and now she's gone. And I'm back in this **** mood. I know I just gotta snap out of it and get on with my life and such but it's not that easy. If it were, I wouldn't be posting this. I miss the life I had. I feel like I'll never be happy again. I don't know what to do.

[natepro]

Have you looked into a therapist? Even if you don't have insurance/money, if you live near a decently sized city you should be able to find free or very cheap therapy. It may not necessarily be clinical depression you have, but just needing a little help to get through a hard time. It can definitely help.

[SACNYY]

I've thought about it. But I can't afford a therapist to be quite honest. I certainly don't want to see a doctor and be prescribed some drug that has suicidal thoughts as a side-effect. Don't really see the point in that. I'm not suicidal btw. I just feel so f'n lost. All that has happened was all so sudden. Everything just went right after another. I didn't have a chance to save any of it. And now I'm just stuck. I want to get up and take charge of my life and do what I need to do. And believe me I try to fix everything but nothing works. I just want to break out of this. I am so tired of feeling so sad and lonely. I am so tired of the way people treat each other. I don't know, I'm just rambling on, sorry.