Does anyone have any advice on dating a best friend? How did it turn out? Did you guys stay friends after you ended it? I need some advice boyzzzzzz
When I was in college, I dated a very close friend. We ended up being in a relationship for 3 years before deciding that we wanted different things. It was pretty good though. It took a while to restore the friendship we had before we started dating, but we're friends again now -- not as close as before, but we still hang out sometimes.
My advice: try not to define it. If she brings it up, tell her you think she's [attractive (whatever word you use here)] and you love spending time with her (and would like to spend time together more often), but you don't want to try to put a label on it -- you'd rather just let things develop naturally. Of course, that means you shouldn't expect things to advance as quickly as if you guys just made it official (unless you're already there), but the more time you spend together and the more positive attention you give her, the better feel you will both have for what's between you. Once it becomes an actual official relationship, it becomes much harder to remain friends afterwards.
Basically this girl is my best friend, we both have gotten out of relationships in the last month and she is the only person I talked to about it, same with her. She only talked to me. IDK I have always thought she was hot but I see her a bit differently now. She sort of knows. We flirt a lot but I do not want to ruin our friendship. She is literally my best friend
- This is why I would kind of let things develop naturally.
- If you're being flirty with her and she's being flirty back (or at least receptive), she probably already knows you're interested and is at least somewhat interested back.
- It helps if some of your flirting is physical first. I'm not talking sexual, just that the "physical contact barrier" has already been broken. The most obvious sign of this is if she shoves you playfully sometimes when you're flirting (because you are teasing her when you flirt, riiight?). If this barrier hasn't been broken, there are subtle ways to break it. I'm sure if you need help with that, myself and the other guys here can provide some tips.
- Probably the smoothest way to approach it is... while you're flirting with her, pause for a second, adopt a more serious tone, and (with a calm smile) say something like "you know, I really enjoy spending time with you". And then take it from there.
- It's a pretty innocuous thing to say -- if she feels the same, she'll make it obvious at that point; if not, you can continue to act like you never said it. A little bit of a bump with your arm and a smile can break any tension that might follow. Just prepare to have something else to talk about in the event that she doesn't immediately reciprocate.